Kutub.id – Children tend to have a high curiosity. Sometimes this curious and curious child’s behavior actually puts him in a situation that he shouldn’t or even endangers him. When that happens, we as parents usually reflexively say “no” or “don’t”.
Usually this word is the final word for the action the child takes. whereas from halodoc.com, according to child psychologist Laura Markham, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids, saying “don’t” too often to children will shut down a child’s initiative and creative power.
Furthermore, Markham said, actually saying “don’t” or “no” can help children to recognize boundaries in their growth and development, emotionally, physically and mentally. This becomes a problem when we worry too much to say “no” too often because this can hinder creativity and initiative ability.
Even though the parents’ initial intentions were good, that is, they were worried that something would happen, saying “no” too often will have a negative impact. From Suara.com there are 4 bad effects that will be experienced by children and parents too often say “don’t“.
The first, which MinTub has alluded to above, is that it hinders children’s initiative and creativity. If this is repeated, the child can become passive and quiet. It would be difficult to understand what he should do if he wasn’t directed.
The second is that it will inhibit courage in children. Most parents often forbid the things their children do but not with a clear explanation why it should not be done. This will make the child a coward.
Then in addition to inhibiting courage as well as creative power and initiative, saying “no” too often will also make children feel confused. Children do not really understand why it should not be done. He would think it was just an order without knowing the reason. Parents should be able to explain the reasons why it is not.
And the last is to make the child become insecure. Indirectly, when we say “don’t” too often, it will encourage children to be afraid so that children will feel insecure about the things they do. When a child is not confident, it will be difficult to develop.
As adults who are more mature, it would be nice if we first observe what children do. try not to worry so much that a child’s step, two step is always forbidden. Always accompany and give more understanding so that it trains children’s thinking about what should be a priority. What is his curiosity? Or the threat that lurks?